Liam J Cross

Sometimes you’re just sat alone thinking about life, about all of its treasures and tragedies, wondering about the meaning of it all. It can be a long process, and chances are you won’t get anywhere fast, but you do it anyway. Life is a strange old game, that’s just the way it is. The more time you spend thinking about it, the more of it you lose. But sometimes deep thought is unavoidable; sometimes you just can’t help yourself.

One of the main things you’ll think about is the notion of happiness, and more importantly, how it comes to exist. It’s a tough thing to do, discovering something that varies so much from person to person, but you can do it. You will do it. And the best place to start is with what happiness actually is.

First and foremost, happiness starts in the mind, and should be thought of as less of an emotional state and more of a chosen mindset. Sitting back and waiting for happiness isn’t plausible, instead you must create it for yourself – thinking of it as a mindset is the best way to start.

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The Circumstances Are Irrelevant

Grey Metal HammerIt’s easy to sit there and complain, saying this person has it better than you or you have this particular problem that they don’t have or they got this and you didn’t – the list goes on and on and on and on and… you get the point. The simple fact is, complaining is the easy way out; making an excuse is the easy way out. Why do you think everyone does it?

People make excuses because they’re scared to face reality and everything that comes with it. Truth is, reality is a simple concept, because it is, and always will be, this: you are in control. That’s it. That’s literally all you have to realise.

You control your thoughts and your actions, you control your mindset, you control how you spend your time; the people you spend it with; the amount of it you spend – you control your life. That’s it. Period. Everything in your life, anything that isn’t a complete inevitability, is in your control, and realising this grants you with so much freedom.

So next time you think about complaining – don’t. Next time you think negatively – squash those thoughts. Next time you want to lose your temper – stop yourself. Time spend doing those things is time taken away from your happiness. You are in charge every step of the way. So guess what? You better start acting like it.

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Forget Entitlement

Red Stop SignIt doesn’t exist – end of story.

There’s nothing worse than those people who feel like the world owes them something, and that they’re somehow worthy of that something even though they’ve done nothing to get it. This is known as entitlement. And guess what? The world doesn’t owe you sh*t.

If you want something, you go out and get it, you don’t sit and complain that you don’t have it; you certainly don’t complain because you should have it. Because, if you should have it, you would have it. You get things by working for them, not by complaining that you haven’t got them but feel like you should. The world cares very little about your feelings…

Let go of this notion of ‘I should have this’ or ‘how come he gets that’ and instead just get your head down, put in the work, and smile as you do. There’s nothing complicated about it. Entitlement stops you from reaching happiness because you’ll never get the things you want if all you do is wish for them.

Imagine if Thomas Edison had an entitlement mindset… we’d still be sat here in the dark. He didn’t think, ‘you know what? I deserve a longer-lasting light source. I’m entitled to it,’ he just got his sh*t together and invented the light bulb.

There’s a lesson to be learned from our good friend Thomas. Don’t expect happiness, just get off your ass and invent it.

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It’s Up To You

adolescent, adult, blur

That’s just the truth.

You, and you alone, are the sole dictator of your happiness. Yes, there will be bad times in which life throws you some challenges, but you can and will get through them, and you can and will be happy. The sooner you realise that you’re in charge, the better your life will become.

It’s like, if you’re one of those people who complain about Monday because you hate your job, and celebrate Friday because the work week is over, then what are you doing with your life? Like what are you actually doing?

If you aren’t happy with your job, guess what you do? You quit your damn job. There are lots of other things you could do, and complaining isn’t one of them. If you genuinely hate what you do to the point where you hate Monday morning, don’t you think it’s time to change that?

Find something you love doing and do that instead. Life is too short to sacrifice your happiness doing anything other.

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